A Few Things To Study Besides The Books
It’s very possible that you started this course without being very familiar with the keys to successful relationship building and human interaction. In this lesson I am going go over the things I believe you should spend a little time understanding exist in nearly every social dynamic. For the longest time, I never really believed these were real or knew that they even existed. When I found out, I started noticing their importance and it helped me understand people better. When I started applying and learning about them, it made me better. Having them in your mind will help you grow them all as you practice them time and time again.
You will mold yourself into a masterpiece that is the unstoppable you ????
Speech Pattern
A lot of people don’t realize this, but rhythm has a lot to do with us, as people. The heart that pumps our blood in us for 70 or more years at a perfect pace is proof of that. If something is more rhythmic, it makes us more comfortable, at ease and capable to understand. The pace of your speech can intrigue people and make them want to listen to you. It can determine how seriously they take what you say and it can also mean the difference between someone trusting you and not trusting you. It’s very important.
Similar to how a professional singer goes to a vocal coach to improve and stay in peak condition, a lot of executives at big companies and politicians go to a speech trainer to ensure they have the right speech pattern to get ahead in work and life. But why, Rob? Because when your business is people, which every business is, the better you are with people, the more connections you make, the stronger your relationships are and the better you can communicate what you want and have to offer.
The speech trainer doesn’t only help you with your speech pattern but also everything else on this list below. They will ask you to do a speech or perform in some way and then help you identify what your current weak points are by saying things like, “Don’t tilt your head!” “Stand up straight!” “Don’t pace too much!” “Walk more!” “Make eye contact for long!” “Make eye contact shorter!” “Look away to the left or right, not up or down because it’s intimidating.” “Gesture bigger!” “Gesture smaller!”
Crazy, right? I’m adding all of this into this course just so you understand it does exist and it is important to spend a little time learning so you can make stronger connections as you grow.
First Impressions
I’m sure you have heard the saying, ‘First impressions are everything,’ and well, it’s true. Your body language, the way you dress, how you talk and more all play a role in how someone will categorize you in their mind. So, it is always best to have all the following things in mind when you are going to meet new people. Make sure your handshake is firm and meaningful. It’s a bigger deal than you think.
Dress For Success
The better dressed you are, the more professional and serious you look. Spend some time learning basic fashion tips, so you can dress sharp and look like a professional to anyone you ever meet.
Be a chameleon. Wherever you go, dress to fit in with that group of people as well as you possibly can.
Intonation
Intonation is the rise and fall of the voice in speaking. Believe it or not, the way that you say and end your words tells the listening person whether or not you feel equal to them, above them or lower than them on the totem pole. Here is a quick video that will probably blow your mind if you’re not familiar with intonation. It will explain what it is, how it works and how powerful it is:
The Impact Of Tonality, Charisma Matrix
Body Language
How you carry yourself will make the difference between people respecting you and people not taking you seriously. Here is an amazing documentary on body language that really made me change my ways:
Secrets of Body Language, Full Documentary
After I started getting into body language, my life completely changed. People started taking me more seriously and I get looked at in public like I’m a somebody and it all started with understanding how to present myself.
Eye Contact
Eye contact is extremely important. Too much or too little both have their own effects in conversation; who you look at in a group and for how long etc. Take some time to read up on eye contact.
Reading People’s Micro-Expressions
Unless we are trained spies, it’s very hard to stop micro-expressions from coming across our faces. Wikipedia summarizes it well, saying:
“A micro-expression is a brief, involuntary facial expression shown on the face of humans according to emotions experienced.“
They usually occur in high-stakes situations, where people have something to lose or gain. Micro-expressions occur when a person is consciously trying to conceal all signs of how they are feeling, or when a person does not consciously know how they are feeling. If you can learn to read micro expressions, you will be able to tell if people are lying to you or even learn to lead conversations based on the way your words are making them feel.