Tips To Build Stronger Relationships
Be A Good Person
At the end of every day, you should understand that being a good, generous, honest person is going to get you further than anything else ever will. Honest people are rare, and people love working with and helping people who are truly good. Go above and beyond to help others without the thought of reciprocation in mind. You can go to sleep knowing you did your best everyday instead of worrying about what you received every day ????
You will smile more and be happier and it will bring more happiness into your life. Your thought process will evolve and how you see and handle your day to day interactions with everyone will change in a way you can only understand if you are a good person.
Know Your Strengths Beforehand
You need to sit down and make a list of all your skillsets and current connections. Why? Well you need to know what you can bring to the table when you start meeting these people. The more you can offer and provide the stronger your relationship will be with them.
Know Their Interests
If you know your connections’ interests, you have a lot more to talk about with them and establish a deeper connection. Every time you reach out to them, you can mention their hobbies, kid’s hobbies or anything that they have going on to get an update on it.
They will see that you cared enough to remember and ask and that makes them feel like a true friend and therefore a stronger connection willing to help you down the road.
How You Can Help Them
You might assume that a super successful contact already has everything they desire and there may not be much you can do for them. If you’re thinking that way, stop immediately! It’s always worth the time to find out a contact’s desires and concerns. The chances are high that you’ll be able to find something worthwhile you can offer. If you help them solve a problem or concern they are having, they will see a valuable person in you and be willing to reciprocate the help when you need it.
Always Give Before You Ask
If you come out of nowhere and suddenly ask people for favors without providing them with some sort of equal value first, you can potentially destroy your entire relationship with that connection. By nature, we mostly care about what is in it for us. Don’t be fooled into thinking the other person doesn’t want something first. I recommend you give a lot before you consider asking.
Don’t go meeting people expecting to ask for things. Be yourself and build a relationship. You should be able to gauge when the time is right and if you have provided enough value and time into the connect.
Realize That Everybody Is Somebody
Never treat people as if they aren’t somebody just because you may think they aren’t useful to you. Everyone is somebody in life and you never know who they know. Being nice to everyone is a rule I live by.
Become “The Plug“
Every so often, go through your list of contacts and assess who is doing what and who needs what. Contact people and simply ask, “Hey is there anything you currently need help with in any particular area? I may know some people and I’d love to connect some good people together.”
Then fill in the gaps and plug people up depending on who needs who for what tasks. You may have one guy who just started his first website and needs to increase his page load speed and you know a guy who does websites. Connect the two if you feel it is a right fit.
Right now, I can name a list of areas I could use help in and I would find value in you if you somehow connected me with people who could help me. That’s how it works.
Never EVER, For Any Reason, Flake
When someone makes plans and they bail last minute, it says a lot about how much they respect you and your time. Never make plans unless you know 100% that you are able to make it. One time flaking without having a super legitimate reason can really damage your character to someone.